Big things happen in life — your company “divorces” you, a loved one passes on, a cheating husband caught — big things. Your world as you know it blows up and you lose all sense of well-being. You’re thrown off balance. You get hit by a curve-ball. Your old dream is shattered. Is it time to dream a new dream?
These kinds of events will likely trigger lots of emotions, like fear, anger, blame and grief, among others. When you feel these raw emotions, it can bring up a sense of insecurity, hopelessness and wonderment about who you are now that things are changing.
It’s called a life transition.
Sometimes you can see them coming and sometimes you’re blind-sided by them. What I know for sure is that they keep coming all life long, whether you want them or not, whether you try to prevent them or not. That’s life. That’s how you learn. That’s how you grow.
I’ve learned that what defines us and makes each of us unique is how we face these major shifts in our lives. Do you tremble at the first sign of change and resist it at all cost? Or, do you wobble at the impact at first, then quickly right yourself and move on? Maybe you welcome the opportunity that change offers you and look for the silver lining every time? Everyone handles transition differently, and depending on the magnitude of the change, you might tremble at one and welcome another.
How we manage through change will determine how we THRIVE for Life.
I’ve learned that acceptance of the situation, honoring the emotions and finding ways to move forward, one baby step at a time, is the best way for me to navigate the choppy waters of any transition.
I love what C.S. Lewis said … “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” It reminds me to never lose sight of my dreams, and to set new goals and dream a new dream when life happens to me.
Dream a New Dream
I believe in setting a firm foundation for those dreams. I think of it as a three-legged stool on which you can sit and never topple. Values—Vision—Passion. When you are well grounded in what you value most for your life, have a crystal clear vision of what you want for your future and integrate what you are most passionate about, you will be able to THRIVE for Life. Dream a new dream. This is what I’ve learned and this is what I teach.
From my “dreaming” heart to yours …
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